Getting over your ex ... or not.
…he was doing it to either hurt me or protect himself; either way how on earth did i fall for such a pathetic human being? if he was telling the truth, how could i ever believe or trust a man ever again. thats a scar that may never heal.
inevitably things end, and people change, etc etc. but if people could just be honest, and respect each other, i feel like there would be a lot less bitter people in this world.
Could have written this myself. I’ve been in that spot. And this isn’t what you feel when some booty call goes wrong or when some casual dating partner (whose role in your life practically screams “meh”) decides he/she is bored with you and goes back to their friends.
Instead, this is death of the soul. You go through the stages of grief, literally. If you love someone, and you find that you cannot resolve things and/or bring closure to romance, it doesn’t matter whether they walk the earth or are deceased… without resolution, it’ll always feel like the latter.
It’s scary to think that it’ll stick with you for the rest of your life, and I strongly believe that it does, but, really, thank God, it means you’re human… you don’t want to be one of those people who can’t feel it at all.
Agreed. To all of this.
And I know this sounds may sound bad, but I promise it’s not: I had to fall head over heels in love again to finally get over the breakup that hurt me like yours did. I needed to experience what a real man is like, and it worked like magic. Finding real love erased my old pain.
I think we get all atwitter when we’re neglected, unappreciated, pushed aside, because we feel we deserve more AND WE DO. The exes that have treated us with apathy (the true opposite of love) are the ones that I think stick in our heads more. We cannot stand apathy when we’re hurting so badly. It seems unfair. Apathy is a terrible, terrible thing, but you can’t make someone love you. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink, so to speak.